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These rules may vary, according to what you have to work with, or are able to reveal, or decide to use....but whatever you do, don't ignore the basic safety you will require, as a submissive meeting a new Dom for the first time. There are people out there who are simply predators, and your new Dom may be wonderful, online and the phone, but admit you don't really know him/her, and protect yourself until you do.

1)	Before you even plan a meeting, be sure you discuss your personal safety with your new dom. Tell him/her how you feel, and listen to what he/she says. If he's really a one who cares for you, they'll add things to protect you, and agree to anything you wish to do. If they do not, then treat it as a first clue to use caution.
2)	Once you plan your meeting, find two people who know you personally: Your name, your address, your phone # and most of all, your background. Make sure they know who you are meeting: the Dom/me's name, his address, and background, as well as any other info you might know. Leave them as detailed a plan of your visit as you can foresee, and arrange with them for regular telephone check-ins...and what to do if one of them is not made. Obviously you don't want the police breaking down a hotel door, while your Dom/me has you tied to the bed, but it might just be that you'll be glad to see them.
3)	Meet with your Dom/me in a public place...somewhere that there are lots of people...and don't LEAVE that public place until you feel comfortable with the person you are meeting. If you don't get comfortable right away, be sure you have some sort of alternative plan available, in lieu of going with them. Try to have YOUR car available...or better yet, a large, muscular friend to see you off, and meet your Dom/me with you. :)
4)	For the first meeting, do not travel to a remote place to get acquainted. Find a comfortable, well-staffed hotel or inn, where there, again, are PEOPLE. Other people are your best defense against injury....and if necessary, run to them...even naked. The old cabin in the hills, where they say you can really "be alone", might sound wonderful, but it is not safe, and should not be considered.
5)	Never, never travel away from your planned itinerary with a new Dom/me. You planned that schedule so people could find you...if you leave it, they can't...and your new Dom/me ought to understand that. Stay where you said you would be, when you set up your security, and resist, to the point of running away, any attempt by your Dom/me to take you away.
6)	D/s and playing. It's normal for you to want very much to please this wo/man who means so much to you...to give them everything he asks for...and delight in the pleasure he/she enjoys. But like everything else you do, for the first time, you have to protect yourself...and as exciting as a caning might sound, while tied and gagged...once you start, remember that stopping them is going to be a problem. Use safe words...there's nothing to be ashamed of, in doing so, and if you need them, you WILL need them. Resist any sort of neck or throat bondage. Resist any sort of oxygen deprivation play....these are dangerous kinds of play, and require enormous care...and you don't know your Dom/me, yet. Sex itself...well, AIDS is around, but it's silly to try and convince two people in your situation to refrain, so use a condom. Insist on it, in fact, and don't give in.
7)	This is from me, to all of you. You are submissives, and there is nothing I've found in my world which is more wonderful. You are all special...and we can't afford to lose you, cause there aren't enough to go around, now...so please, take care of yourself. When you do come back, show us your new collar, or your welts, or whatever you value most from your visit, and we'll love you more for having done it. But, whatever you do, come back to us.