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BD/SM ~ Safe, Sane and
Consensual
Quotes taken from : On The Safety Edge - A Manual for SM Play
Additional notes by cassie
Safe....
"All players have taken the necessary
precautions to prevent psychological and physical damage to themselves,
including the transmission of disease".
Safe means above all doing things in a way which
will not injure or harm any of the people involved.
Safe means practicing safe sex~ always !
Safe means learning the correct use of toys and
equipment, before beginning a scene.
Safe means having negotiating limits and
establishing a safe~word before a scene.
Safe means safe play- leaving air-ways, making
sure of blood-flow and more.
Safe means discretion- keeping the Sharav
meetings private and our of the public eye.
Safe means having a public safe word for
play-parties and relevant private socials, as well as having our people
make sure those words are respected.
Safe means no alcohol or drugs in any of the
Sharav meetings, under any condition.
Sane....
"All players are in full possession of their
mental faculties and are fully aware of the risks involved in the play
they intend".
Sane means knowing how to balance your vanilla
life with your BDSM one.
Sane means knowing your emotional limits- as
well as those of your partner- and respecting them.
Sane also means respecting other people's kinks
and tastes.
Sane means not interfering during scenes, nor
distracting the players.
Sane means knowing when, if something is not to
your liking, to turn away quietly, not to tell everybody loudly you think
this is gross.
Consensual....
"All players fully understand the potential
risks of their intended play and have consented to the activities. This
consent can be withdrawn or modified by any player at any time".
Consensual means to respect the limits, physical
and emotional, that have been set prior to a scene, as well as the
safe~word, should it be used.
Consensual means remembering the people involved
in scenes do it because they want to, and that they have their own
relationship and rules between them. It is not for you nor for anyone to
judge or make decisions for them.
Consensual means not stepping in into scenes
unless you have been invited.
Consensual means understanding that just because
someone is single or comes to our meetings alone, does not mean they are
desperate for sex.
Consensual means learning to take no for an
answer.
Consensual means respecting Sharav decisions and
rules, because even though they may not always suit you, they are for the
best of the group.
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